I am so proud of you Katie girl this is a wonderful way to help others….what greater way than to show people that you can achieve in life and life will continue as normally as possible with whatever life throws at you…you are a gear ambassador for this and I know have helped many people including myself through hard times…love you always xxxx
My dear, dear friend. Can you believe I have only just read this?? I had not checked comments before.You are officially the first real comment! Thank you a million times over for your love and support and for believing in me at times when I didnt believe in me! Lets hope these pages really reach out to people. I will love you. Always xxx
Written so well my dearest LL and what a revelation….. “brain farts” that is something that is so easy for us to remember and deal with. Thank you as always for sharing your knowledge xxx
My LL!!!!! You are officially my first ‘proper’ comment. I have only just seen this as didn’t check comments before now. I am so, so happy that you have already taken something from the article. There will be plenty more coming, just keep checking in. Love ya xxx
although I am no longer in this pain…….anyone who has ever had a day of real depression will recognise the way you
have so eloquently described this misery. Once you have had this experience it is something you cannot forget. But it is so
reassuring that hopefully we can all look back on the darkest of those days and maybe help others through theirs. Thank you for honesty and compassion………..M
Thank you M. I truly hope that this piece and others will reach out and let people know that this pain is real. Very real. I encourage you to continue to share the yet unmatched level of experience that you have for the good of others. You know that without your pain, I would never have got through mine. Forever grateful. Always yours. K x
An extremely accurate description of the darkest place of one’s mind. Thankfully with the help of unconditional love and support (and good meds!!) Some of us break through the darkness to all that is light again.
I hope your inspiring and truthful words help bring the light to others.
Much love as always xxx
This brought a lump to my throat!
To have the tiniest glimpse into how REAL depression is. Such a world away from a ” I’m having a bad day” depression….
Kate, you really do have a skill…..This is not only articulate but sensitive and full of feeling. You are able to lead the reader into that other world. From someone who has never suffered from this horrendous, debilitating illness it has allowed me to see how it effects a person’s life. How it consumes and takes over a life. How a life is not lived in the way it deserves.
You are living proof that this does NOT define who you are.
Thank you Pat. I am happy that the words portray what it is truly like to live one day, depressed. If these pages continue to do this, then my ambition is fulfilled. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. And for your love and support, I am eternally grateful. x
Hi Kate,
Some books I have on my bookshelf which I find are so valuable are, ‘I had a black dog’ and ‘Living with a black dog’. They are books written by Matthew Johnstone, and are picture books which explain depression. When I had a breakdown, my family didn’t understand so I made them and my friends read these books. It completely explains depression in an easy way, and helped me understand what the hell was wrong with me too! They are amazing and powerful books. Add them to your bookshelf. Sam xx
Kate you are so inspirational. I love this blog & hope it reaches to more & more people. It’s so touching and honest, well done girl keep it up. Love ya, Ceri xxx
I got told that the way to deal with my clinical depression was to “smile, think positively and consistent happy thoughts”…. People don’t seem to realise how utterly devastating and offensive belittling they can be in addressing a serious condition like depression; after all, you’d never tell an insulin dependent diabetic that happy thoughts will cure them. It’s such a refreshing change, Kate, to read a post so beautifully articulate and descriptive about depression. You have put into words, much more eloquently than I’ve seen before, exactly what it is like to suffer with this debilitating condition, and not just be perceived as being “mopingly self indulgent” as I was also once told.
You write so beautifully and from the heart. This will be my inspiration when I need that *insider* help. Beautiful, Kate x
Well done Kate!!! a great read, I am sure it will reach lots of people out there and help them find a way through, just as you have.
keep going and See you soon!!!
Sounds like you are getting to understand your body/mind/condition more and more Kate.
You have already said you need to remind yourself to give that body/brain some quiet time too. That must be so hard when you have so much to say and are so passionate about your blogging. Pace yourself and enjoy all your hard work. Xxx
I would just like to say that this is a very inspiring thing to do and certainly highlights to young people that depression is an illness that affects many. I’m positive that I will get a lot from reading your blog and will certainly be trying the 4,7,8 breathing technique.
I have suffered with 2 very different episodes of bad depression the second very recently forcing me to resign from my job. However although bad days still occur the good ones certainly outweigh them and I’m sure on both good and bad days I will use this blog as both comfort and reassurance that I shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed. Thanks kate fab job so far x
The first time I suffered from depression I found it impossible to separate the thoughts in my head from reality, what was actually going on in my day to day life. This was extremely tiring, painful and there were occasions when I couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel which frightened me. If it wasn’t for the support of my loved ones and the pain I could see them suffering (although they tried to hide it) plus the amazing counselling sessions that I had then I genuinely believe I wouldn’t be here to talk about this today. Now I’m in a better place mentally then I can certainly turn to this blog to give me peace of mind – for that I am truly grateful xx
Fantastic feedback Helen. Thank you. I am pleased that the words have helped ease your mind. Its a terrible thing to live with, but there is always hope. Stay tuned and stay well xx
I’m definitely getting the book for writing things I’m grateful for – amazing idea. I’ve started by just thinking about them each night before I go to sleep.
Thanks Kate; can I just say what I find so inspiring is that I had no idea about your history of depression or that you even suffered with it. When I see you at parties etc you would never know and I’m sure you would think likewise about me. This is why it’s so amazing that you’re talking about it because people don’t realise how many people (even people we know) suffer or have suffered from depression etc and it goes to show that people can enjoy life and get through dark times.
Honestly can’t thank you enough – I have read and will read this blog etc every night before I go to bed.
Helen x
Helen Im so happy that by me sharing my story and experience, that you have taken comfort. Generally people have no idea that I suffer. Its always been that way, and I had no idea you were suffering too. We are clearly good at putting on a brave face. Probably to our detriment along the way. Definitely do the gratitude diary it really works to change the focus. Stay tuned, hoping to add each week and I will update the FB page when I do. Take care of yourself xxx
Such lovely thoughts and suggestions.
Yes to loving ourselves first!! Very hard to do for lots of people. Women especially look at the negatives about themselves.
You are right about focusing on even one nice/ positive thing. We don’t see what others see in us so yes let’s ask our friends
And family to tell us more often what they think is good about us!
Xxx
We need the head honcho to remind us to till our soil and plant those seeds of love, of happiness, of joy, of kindness, of forgiveness.. I am a firm believer in spreading the joy, not the muck. Just some days I need to dig deep and do some weeding and clearing out so to speak! Xxx
I love this idea!!! A similar method was used when I was doing my Aromatherapy training: when choosing oils by smell alone we always chose ones that triggered a memory. Personally I always chose Basil essential oil as the smell reminded me of Nannie & Bamby’s garden!!! Happy times!!! Think I’ll be whipping up a batch now!!
This is great Katy girl, some fab advice for everybody, specially us novices! I remember 15 years ago you doing my hair and makeup for prom night and making me look beautiful. You’ve got a real eye for this and great now that you can share all your years of knowledge and skill with others xxx
P.s. What we need now is some fashion advice. What trends should we be looking out for this spring/summer? Although I’ll probably just drop in and borrow all of your stuff when I next need an outfit anyway! Some things never change 🙂 xx
I’m smiling….yes I am!!!!. Lots of really good advice Katy. Look even if you are not depressed but just a bit flipping fed up/ pissed off/ I hate everything, etc…..Trying to get yourself to be the person you know is underneath all the crappola that is life… well anything is worth a go. “Smile and the whole world smiles with you” …..cry and well…We can all only take so much of that.
Not sure where you are getting all your inspiration from love but keep it up…
Xxxxx
Just lovely Kate. So well written…again. You
Make me want to be a duck with you …just
Paddling away, no cares or worries! Life is So simple, if only we realised! Xxxx
I wanna be a duck!!!! Truly inspiring once again and so right that those who love you for real love you regardless!!! Sometimes we just forget that xxxx
Can I be a duck with the two of you too?! We’ll paddle around all day long having the best time. Loving this Kate.. website is looking fab – just catching up on some posts now. Keep doing you, darl! xx
I so want to be a duck! But at the moment I am still trapped, trying to be a Swan. I don’t want to be a swan, but the unforgiving me thinks I should be…
Great writing Kate. Thought provoking…even if the reader has no defined issues.
Acceptance can sound negative at times. ..lazy even. But reading your article allows it to be ok. To not feel guilty if you do accept acceptance. It is interesting…do we make our lives harder by not accepting..( and is this in built or a learned attitude). I think a lot has to do with the now….this generation…the pace of life…the must do, the must have. Not the person per say but the crazy everything surrounding them/us. It is hard to take a stand and say enough is enough. The real me needs A,B and C !…..
Hey girl you have seen the light and God knows walked the walk. Accept who we are…warts and all and live the best way. Trying to extract some joy each day from yes, as you say the simple things. They can add up to a lot of something.!!! Xxx x
P.s Trying to currently accept that a size 16 is never gonna happen. Xxx x
Ahh my girl, this one has really hit a nerve for me as you know!!! Letting go of the past is very hard – but made even harder when you yourself are doing everything in your power to move on from it, but certain people bring you crashing back in to those moments and dark feelings because they still have to be a part of your life!!! Let it go akready!!!! Xxxx
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You are so wonderful kiki..
You know exactly what to say. This is why you have to go through all the pain. I know there will be many who will relate to this open hearted article. People will love you for it!!! Amazing..mum x
Liking the research, science bit Kate. Incredible. You are now giving us cry babies full license to keep blabbing at any opportunity as our body needs us to ” let it out”, “let it go !
It’s great how the body works really.
Another superb, well written and thought provoking article love.
Better go get a bigger supply of them tissues then!
Xxx
I have sat beside you holding your hand through the good times, and sadly the darkest ones. Over the years, I thought I had grown to have fairly decent understanding of how this could possibly make you feel. I was wrong.
Never in my life have I been so moved, saddened and in complete awe of you. This beautifully written portrail, of the hideous darkness you have to at times endure, has literally brought me to my knees.
Its an extraordinary piece that gives a very honest insight into a very frightening and hopeless place. A place where I hope to never venture.
Your strength has always astounded me. You never let “Her” beat you and after reading this, I can’t quite believe how brave a person you truly are.
The tenderest of hearts fighting the darkest of demons is so unfair, and though this is your battle, I will continue to stand by you and hold your hand…if nothing else, I will never let go. Ever.
Fight the good fight by beautiful sister. You are right, “She” will never win…. ❤
Oh my sister. Such words come from only the best of hearts. We are made of special stuff! I would be nothing without you. Thank you for your constant love, support and faith in me. That’s all I ever need.
We will overcome. ‘She’ will never win. I’m glad the words show the pain. But it’s only temporary.
Never let go. I promise exactly the same. Yours alone. Kiki xxx
Been there lovely lady. You will come through the storm again. Your own words ‘little steps’ Stay strong. You have a great family who love you to the moon and back x
Kiki I to have been on this journey. Like yourself I’ve found ways to self help and with drugs too of course .people do find it hard to understand and I was frustrated at them and myself . pleased your fighting and like me getting better. Keep thinking forward I am now it does help. Sending love and hugs Pauline. X
Awh, our Lovely Katie.
You are so open, honest and good to share your self. What a terrible, awful time you have been through.
We can only image what it must be like for you. On and on. Such strength you have. Here you are still giving.
So glad you are brighter. You are so very good with your writing, inspiring.
We know this illness does not define who you are….Beautiful, fun loving, wise, caring, bright , courageous, inspiring, uncomplaining, most amazing and utterly all round fantastic.
We MISS YOU and LOVE YOU. Xxxx
So well written as usual. Telling it, as it is. You have been on such a journey love. I just wish it had been a short one with no pain involved. It is just like you to always find the positive in all things. You are such a unique person. I am so glad you feel stronger and that you have discovered parts of yourself through your journey. Its so true that not many of us really know who we are or why we are here. We need directions fom you love. We are all so furiously going from one day to the next. Never really taking that time to smell those roses or just be.
I read a lovely article about a lady who had suffered from varying degrees of depression and ill health. She posted a blog asking all those people who felt out of touch or lonely to meet her at the park for a walk. She didn’t expect anyone to turn up. But a few did and then some more the next time. Eventually they had a large circle of people just walking and chatting and sharing.
Keep chatting and sharing love. Xxx
Beautiful, truthful and insightful words as always Kiki!! Keep being you, you are most definitely an intelligent, beautiful and loving soul! One of the best ? ? Xxx
I bought the origins face masks after reading your blog Kate! I love them!! My skin has been really bad lately and I love trying new products so thanks for introducing these to me 🙂
Wow! This is amazing Abbie! I’m so pleased. I love them too. So glad they are working. And thank you for taking the time to feedback. I’ll be hopefully doing more posts on beauty so stay tuned. I’m doing good ATM darling girl. Hope you are too ?
Found your blog through instagram and love it! Completely agree about baby steps – anxiety and depression makes everything hard work so it good to celebrate the little wins.
Keep on going – you’re doing fab as it is whether you feel it or not! Also don’t feel bad about blogging less (read other posts haha) as those who want to read will stick around.
Aww thanks Jess! This is amazing. I’m so glad you love it. Let’s keep celebrating us and our little wins! Much love to you and thanks for commenting. K
My beautiful girl. Even in your darkness you are a shining light. It’s just a little more dim. You offer a beacon of hope to every person you meet and offer wholeheartedly your love and care. My rock star and nestie. Beautiful words as always. Xx
This is fantastic my lifelong. I am super excited to read your new posts 😍 The little scissor is sooo right you do know ALOT of shizzle. As always your light shines brightly and will never never be dimmed. Can’t wait. Love you lots my warrior, your LL xoxo
Reading this gave me a sense of peace and calm and an understanding of how my thoughts need to be addressed quietly and not with panic or aggression.
Thanks once again for sharing…..
Mum x
Amazing post my beautiful lifelong! Strong and independent for sure ….the champions will come…. eventually and even if we are 50 when the “champs” arrive we could still be in a relationship for a good 30 years which would be plenty 😜. I think we have perfect timing. Look at the fun we have had along the way and we haven’t needed Botox for the wrinks either 👌👌👌😚 xxx
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Claire Connolly
17/10/2014 at 7:08 pm
I am so proud of you Katie girl this is a wonderful way to help others….what greater way than to show people that you can achieve in life and life will continue as normally as possible with whatever life throws at you…you are a gear ambassador for this and I know have helped many people including myself through hard times…love you always xxxx
BITD
06/01/2015 at 5:09 pm
My dear, dear friend. Can you believe I have only just read this?? I had not checked comments before.You are officially the first real comment! Thank you a million times over for your love and support and for believing in me at times when I didnt believe in me! Lets hope these pages really reach out to people. I will love you. Always xxx
Ruthie Lifelong of many years
03/01/2015 at 5:06 pm
Written so well my dearest LL and what a revelation….. “brain farts” that is something that is so easy for us to remember and deal with. Thank you as always for sharing your knowledge xxx
BITD
06/01/2015 at 4:57 pm
My LL!!!!! You are officially my first ‘proper’ comment. I have only just seen this as didn’t check comments before now. I am so, so happy that you have already taken something from the article. There will be plenty more coming, just keep checking in. Love ya xxx
margaret j
06/01/2015 at 4:58 pm
although I am no longer in this pain…….anyone who has ever had a day of real depression will recognise the way you
have so eloquently described this misery. Once you have had this experience it is something you cannot forget. But it is so
reassuring that hopefully we can all look back on the darkest of those days and maybe help others through theirs. Thank you for honesty and compassion………..M
BITD
06/01/2015 at 5:03 pm
Thank you M. I truly hope that this piece and others will reach out and let people know that this pain is real. Very real. I encourage you to continue to share the yet unmatched level of experience that you have for the good of others. You know that without your pain, I would never have got through mine. Forever grateful. Always yours. K x
Anma
10/01/2015 at 12:22 am
An extremely accurate description of the darkest place of one’s mind. Thankfully with the help of unconditional love and support (and good meds!!) Some of us break through the darkness to all that is light again.
I hope your inspiring and truthful words help bring the light to others.
Much love as always xxx
BITD
10/01/2015 at 1:15 pm
Thank you Anma x
Pat Palmer
10/01/2015 at 9:09 am
This brought a lump to my throat!
To have the tiniest glimpse into how REAL depression is. Such a world away from a ” I’m having a bad day” depression….
Kate, you really do have a skill…..This is not only articulate but sensitive and full of feeling. You are able to lead the reader into that other world. From someone who has never suffered from this horrendous, debilitating illness it has allowed me to see how it effects a person’s life. How it consumes and takes over a life. How a life is not lived in the way it deserves.
You are living proof that this does NOT define who you are.
BITD
10/01/2015 at 1:17 pm
Thank you Pat. I am happy that the words portray what it is truly like to live one day, depressed. If these pages continue to do this, then my ambition is fulfilled. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment. And for your love and support, I am eternally grateful. x
Sam
11/01/2015 at 11:37 pm
Hi Kate,
Some books I have on my bookshelf which I find are so valuable are, ‘I had a black dog’ and ‘Living with a black dog’. They are books written by Matthew Johnstone, and are picture books which explain depression. When I had a breakdown, my family didn’t understand so I made them and my friends read these books. It completely explains depression in an easy way, and helped me understand what the hell was wrong with me too! They are amazing and powerful books. Add them to your bookshelf. Sam xx
BITD
12/01/2015 at 7:56 pm
Thanks Sam. This is fantastic. I will certainly add them.xxx
Ceri Atkinson
24/01/2015 at 1:31 pm
Kate you are so inspirational. I love this blog & hope it reaches to more & more people. It’s so touching and honest, well done girl keep it up. Love ya, Ceri xxx
BITD
26/01/2015 at 9:26 pm
Thank you Miss Ceri! This is fantastic news and Im so glad I get your seal of approval. It means the world. Stay tuned for more xxxx
Jade Bennett
10/02/2015 at 4:37 pm
I got told that the way to deal with my clinical depression was to “smile, think positively and consistent happy thoughts”…. People don’t seem to realise how utterly devastating and offensive belittling they can be in addressing a serious condition like depression; after all, you’d never tell an insulin dependent diabetic that happy thoughts will cure them. It’s such a refreshing change, Kate, to read a post so beautifully articulate and descriptive about depression. You have put into words, much more eloquently than I’ve seen before, exactly what it is like to suffer with this debilitating condition, and not just be perceived as being “mopingly self indulgent” as I was also once told.
You write so beautifully and from the heart. This will be my inspiration when I need that *insider* help. Beautiful, Kate x
BITD
11/02/2015 at 1:24 pm
Thank you Jade. Thank you for the feedback, it means alot. Please keep reading xxx
Elliot Palmer
10/02/2015 at 4:48 pm
Well done Kate!!! a great read, I am sure it will reach lots of people out there and help them find a way through, just as you have.
keep going and See you soon!!!
BITD
11/02/2015 at 1:24 pm
Thanks El. It means a lot that you like the words and feel they will help. Please keep reading and feeding back xxx
Pat Palmer
10/02/2015 at 7:31 pm
Sounds like you are getting to understand your body/mind/condition more and more Kate.
You have already said you need to remind yourself to give that body/brain some quiet time too. That must be so hard when you have so much to say and are so passionate about your blogging. Pace yourself and enjoy all your hard work. Xxx
Ruthie
10/02/2015 at 7:37 pm
Keep sowing my dear friend you’re reaping is in abundance
aileen
10/02/2015 at 8:17 pm
Loving the blog, lovely. Really, really relating! ❤ xx
Helen Blackwell
10/02/2015 at 9:08 pm
I would just like to say that this is a very inspiring thing to do and certainly highlights to young people that depression is an illness that affects many. I’m positive that I will get a lot from reading your blog and will certainly be trying the 4,7,8 breathing technique.
I have suffered with 2 very different episodes of bad depression the second very recently forcing me to resign from my job. However although bad days still occur the good ones certainly outweigh them and I’m sure on both good and bad days I will use this blog as both comfort and reassurance that I shouldn’t be ashamed or embarrassed. Thanks kate fab job so far x
Helen Blackwell
10/02/2015 at 9:32 pm
The first time I suffered from depression I found it impossible to separate the thoughts in my head from reality, what was actually going on in my day to day life. This was extremely tiring, painful and there were occasions when I couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel which frightened me. If it wasn’t for the support of my loved ones and the pain I could see them suffering (although they tried to hide it) plus the amazing counselling sessions that I had then I genuinely believe I wouldn’t be here to talk about this today. Now I’m in a better place mentally then I can certainly turn to this blog to give me peace of mind – for that I am truly grateful xx
BITD
11/02/2015 at 1:26 pm
Fantastic feedback Helen. Thank you. I am pleased that the words have helped ease your mind. Its a terrible thing to live with, but there is always hope. Stay tuned and stay well xx
Helen Blackwell
12/02/2015 at 10:42 pm
I’m definitely getting the book for writing things I’m grateful for – amazing idea. I’ve started by just thinking about them each night before I go to sleep.
Thanks Kate; can I just say what I find so inspiring is that I had no idea about your history of depression or that you even suffered with it. When I see you at parties etc you would never know and I’m sure you would think likewise about me. This is why it’s so amazing that you’re talking about it because people don’t realise how many people (even people we know) suffer or have suffered from depression etc and it goes to show that people can enjoy life and get through dark times.
Honestly can’t thank you enough – I have read and will read this blog etc every night before I go to bed.
Helen x
BITD
13/02/2015 at 5:02 pm
Helen Im so happy that by me sharing my story and experience, that you have taken comfort. Generally people have no idea that I suffer. Its always been that way, and I had no idea you were suffering too. We are clearly good at putting on a brave face. Probably to our detriment along the way. Definitely do the gratitude diary it really works to change the focus. Stay tuned, hoping to add each week and I will update the FB page when I do. Take care of yourself xxx
Pat palmer
16/02/2015 at 3:00 pm
Such lovely thoughts and suggestions.
Yes to loving ourselves first!! Very hard to do for lots of people. Women especially look at the negatives about themselves.
You are right about focusing on even one nice/ positive thing. We don’t see what others see in us so yes let’s ask our friends
And family to tell us more often what they think is good about us!
Xxx
Pat Palmer
16/02/2015 at 10:38 pm
We need the head honcho to remind us to till our soil and plant those seeds of love, of happiness, of joy, of kindness, of forgiveness.. I am a firm believer in spreading the joy, not the muck. Just some days I need to dig deep and do some weeding and clearing out so to speak! Xxx
Anma
19/02/2015 at 11:04 pm
I love this idea!!! A similar method was used when I was doing my Aromatherapy training: when choosing oils by smell alone we always chose ones that triggered a memory. Personally I always chose Basil essential oil as the smell reminded me of Nannie & Bamby’s garden!!! Happy times!!! Think I’ll be whipping up a batch now!!
Ruth Samways
28/02/2015 at 9:55 am
Amen to that scissor x
Becky B
16/03/2015 at 8:57 pm
This is great Katy girl, some fab advice for everybody, specially us novices! I remember 15 years ago you doing my hair and makeup for prom night and making me look beautiful. You’ve got a real eye for this and great now that you can share all your years of knowledge and skill with others xxx
BITD
20/03/2015 at 9:20 pm
Ive only just seen this kidda! Fab feedback. Thank you! Fashion is on the agenda, watch this space. Love ya xxx
Becky B
16/03/2015 at 9:03 pm
P.s. What we need now is some fashion advice. What trends should we be looking out for this spring/summer? Although I’ll probably just drop in and borrow all of your stuff when I next need an outfit anyway! Some things never change 🙂 xx
Elizabeth lewis
20/03/2015 at 9:29 pm
Love your blogs Kate,
Pat Palmer
28/03/2015 at 8:01 pm
I’m smiling….yes I am!!!!. Lots of really good advice Katy. Look even if you are not depressed but just a bit flipping fed up/ pissed off/ I hate everything, etc…..Trying to get yourself to be the person you know is underneath all the crappola that is life… well anything is worth a go. “Smile and the whole world smiles with you” …..cry and well…We can all only take so much of that.
Not sure where you are getting all your inspiration from love but keep it up…
Xxxxx
Pat palmer
31/03/2015 at 7:07 pm
Just lovely Kate. So well written…again. You
Make me want to be a duck with you …just
Paddling away, no cares or worries! Life is So simple, if only we realised! Xxxx
BITD
31/03/2015 at 7:13 pm
Pat I am loving all your comments. I love being a duck too. It is so freeing! Who needs swans?! Thank you for all your words and support. LY xxx
Anma
31/03/2015 at 7:18 pm
I wanna be a duck!!!! Truly inspiring once again and so right that those who love you for real love you regardless!!! Sometimes we just forget that xxxx
John Hodd
31/03/2015 at 7:57 pm
Can I be a duck with the two of you too?! We’ll paddle around all day long having the best time. Loving this Kate.. website is looking fab – just catching up on some posts now. Keep doing you, darl! xx
zena
31/03/2015 at 9:46 pm
I so want to be a duck! But at the moment I am still trapped, trying to be a Swan. I don’t want to be a swan, but the unforgiving me thinks I should be…
Pat Palmer
31/08/2015 at 6:52 pm
Great writing Kate. Thought provoking…even if the reader has no defined issues.
Acceptance can sound negative at times. ..lazy even. But reading your article allows it to be ok. To not feel guilty if you do accept acceptance. It is interesting…do we make our lives harder by not accepting..( and is this in built or a learned attitude). I think a lot has to do with the now….this generation…the pace of life…the must do, the must have. Not the person per say but the crazy everything surrounding them/us. It is hard to take a stand and say enough is enough. The real me needs A,B and C !…..
Hey girl you have seen the light and God knows walked the walk. Accept who we are…warts and all and live the best way. Trying to extract some joy each day from yes, as you say the simple things. They can add up to a lot of something.!!! Xxx x
P.s Trying to currently accept that a size 16 is never gonna happen. Xxx x
Anma
01/09/2015 at 7:24 pm
Ahh my girl, this one has really hit a nerve for me as you know!!! Letting go of the past is very hard – but made even harder when you yourself are doing everything in your power to move on from it, but certain people bring you crashing back in to those moments and dark feelings because they still have to be a part of your life!!! Let it go akready!!!! Xxxx
BITD
01/09/2015 at 7:55 pm
It’s not easy girl. But you’ll get there. You’re doing all you can. You’re doing great. Stay strong. Kiki xx
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Lal
14/09/2015 at 6:06 pm
You are so wonderful kiki..
You know exactly what to say. This is why you have to go through all the pain. I know there will be many who will relate to this open hearted article. People will love you for it!!! Amazing..mum x
BITD
14/09/2015 at 9:33 pm
Thanks Lal. You amaze me too for always picking me up. Kiki x
Pat Palmer
18/09/2015 at 11:54 pm
Liking the research, science bit Kate. Incredible. You are now giving us cry babies full license to keep blabbing at any opportunity as our body needs us to ” let it out”, “let it go !
It’s great how the body works really.
Another superb, well written and thought provoking article love.
Better go get a bigger supply of them tissues then!
Xxx
Pat Palmer
21/10/2015 at 5:33 pm
Great advice Kate.
Fom your experiences, from your hard-work, from your commitment to life.
…..How about another new saying….. A Kiki original ?
Or …ask everyone to make their own up.
Xxxx
BITD
21/10/2015 at 8:09 pm
I like your thinking auntie. Xx
Your sister
17/11/2015 at 2:11 pm
I have sat beside you holding your hand through the good times, and sadly the darkest ones. Over the years, I thought I had grown to have fairly decent understanding of how this could possibly make you feel. I was wrong.
Never in my life have I been so moved, saddened and in complete awe of you. This beautifully written portrail, of the hideous darkness you have to at times endure, has literally brought me to my knees.
Its an extraordinary piece that gives a very honest insight into a very frightening and hopeless place. A place where I hope to never venture.
Your strength has always astounded me. You never let “Her” beat you and after reading this, I can’t quite believe how brave a person you truly are.
The tenderest of hearts fighting the darkest of demons is so unfair, and though this is your battle, I will continue to stand by you and hold your hand…if nothing else, I will never let go. Ever.
Fight the good fight by beautiful sister. You are right, “She” will never win…. ❤
#inspirational #brave #strong #love
BITD
17/11/2015 at 2:20 pm
Oh my sister. Such words come from only the best of hearts. We are made of special stuff! I would be nothing without you. Thank you for your constant love, support and faith in me. That’s all I ever need.
We will overcome. ‘She’ will never win. I’m glad the words show the pain. But it’s only temporary.
Never let go. I promise exactly the same. Yours alone. Kiki xxx
Aeres
17/11/2015 at 6:21 pm
Been there lovely lady. You will come through the storm again. Your own words ‘little steps’ Stay strong. You have a great family who love you to the moon and back x
Anma
01/12/2015 at 9:44 pm
Truly inspirational words as always!!! Love you lots xxx
SVD
02/12/2015 at 7:28 am
Great article and so true x
Ruthie
02/12/2015 at 1:51 pm
Bottoms up my ll here’s to what 2016 brings us, bring on the wave machine, we are ready and waiting! ???? Xxx
Ruthie
02/12/2015 at 1:53 pm
The ???are smiley faces lol x
Debbie Robinson
12/01/2016 at 4:14 am
Another truly inspiring blog from the beauty in the darkness. You’ve made my day better already ?
BITD
12/01/2016 at 10:12 am
Thank you so much Debbie. I’m glad it inspired you a bit! X
Debbie Robinson
16/02/2016 at 10:48 pm
Love it #DiffAbility
Debbie Robinson
04/03/2016 at 3:40 pm
Heart wrenchingly beautiful. ❤️
BITD
04/03/2016 at 5:13 pm
Thank you Debs. Love to you. K x
pauline DIXON
04/03/2016 at 6:27 pm
Kiki I to have been on this journey. Like yourself I’ve found ways to self help and with drugs too of course .people do find it hard to understand and I was frustrated at them and myself . pleased your fighting and like me getting better. Keep thinking forward I am now it does help. Sending love and hugs Pauline. X
Pat Palmer
04/03/2016 at 9:55 pm
Awh, our Lovely Katie.
You are so open, honest and good to share your self. What a terrible, awful time you have been through.
We can only image what it must be like for you. On and on. Such strength you have. Here you are still giving.
So glad you are brighter. You are so very good with your writing, inspiring.
We know this illness does not define who you are….Beautiful, fun loving, wise, caring, bright , courageous, inspiring, uncomplaining, most amazing and utterly all round fantastic.
We MISS YOU and LOVE YOU. Xxxx
BITD
05/03/2016 at 1:38 pm
Aww auntie! Such amazing words. Thank you for your constant reminders of my strengths. Let’s hope it helps others. Here’s to better days. K x
Ruthie
08/04/2016 at 10:23 am
Amazing post my LL ❤️ X
Debbie Robinson
03/06/2016 at 11:04 pm
Another inspiring blog Kiki
Big mahoosive enormous hugs
D
X
Lucy Johnson
02/07/2016 at 4:33 pm
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Pat Palmer
19/07/2016 at 8:59 pm
Awh Kate.
So well written as usual. Telling it, as it is. You have been on such a journey love. I just wish it had been a short one with no pain involved. It is just like you to always find the positive in all things. You are such a unique person. I am so glad you feel stronger and that you have discovered parts of yourself through your journey. Its so true that not many of us really know who we are or why we are here. We need directions fom you love. We are all so furiously going from one day to the next. Never really taking that time to smell those roses or just be.
I read a lovely article about a lady who had suffered from varying degrees of depression and ill health. She posted a blog asking all those people who felt out of touch or lonely to meet her at the park for a walk. She didn’t expect anyone to turn up. But a few did and then some more the next time. Eventually they had a large circle of people just walking and chatting and sharing.
Keep chatting and sharing love. Xxx
Anma
19/11/2016 at 8:07 am
Beautiful, truthful and insightful words as always Kiki!! Keep being you, you are most definitely an intelligent, beautiful and loving soul! One of the best ? ? Xxx
Lucy Johnson
22/11/2016 at 9:43 pm
I literally want EVERYTHING!!!
Excellent shopping guide Kiki!! Thanks for all your hard work – i’m certain there will now be a lot of happy ladies come Christmas Day! xxx
Kristy
23/11/2016 at 5:33 pm
So many gorgeous gift ideas… This is perfect for the hopeless shopper like me! Thank you so much! X
BITD
23/11/2016 at 5:40 pm
My pleasure goose. Glad you’ve been inspired ?
Abbie
12/01/2017 at 10:20 pm
I bought the origins face masks after reading your blog Kate! I love them!! My skin has been really bad lately and I love trying new products so thanks for introducing these to me 🙂
Hope all is well with you!
Love Abbie xxxx
BITD
12/01/2017 at 11:09 pm
Wow! This is amazing Abbie! I’m so pleased. I love them too. So glad they are working. And thank you for taking the time to feedback. I’ll be hopefully doing more posts on beauty so stay tuned. I’m doing good ATM darling girl. Hope you are too ?
Debbie Robinson
13/01/2017 at 6:01 am
Fantabulous…… and how absolutelygorgeous you are bare. X
BITD
17/02/2017 at 1:33 am
Girl. I thought I’d replied to this! Thanks for the love. ?
Jess
06/03/2017 at 8:26 pm
Found your blog through instagram and love it! Completely agree about baby steps – anxiety and depression makes everything hard work so it good to celebrate the little wins.
Keep on going – you’re doing fab as it is whether you feel it or not! Also don’t feel bad about blogging less (read other posts haha) as those who want to read will stick around.
Keep up the great work!
BITD
06/03/2017 at 8:29 pm
Aww thanks Jess! This is amazing. I’m so glad you love it. Let’s keep celebrating us and our little wins! Much love to you and thanks for commenting. K
Claire
18/03/2017 at 9:04 pm
My beautiful girl. Even in your darkness you are a shining light. It’s just a little more dim. You offer a beacon of hope to every person you meet and offer wholeheartedly your love and care. My rock star and nestie. Beautiful words as always. Xx
BITD
11/04/2017 at 6:35 pm
My beautiful Nestie. The light surely wouldn’t shine without you. Forever my strength, my rock and my safety. Always, K xox
Madie
16/07/2018 at 1:11 pm
thx I needed to know this
Rou
20/01/2019 at 5:47 pm
This is fantastic my lifelong. I am super excited to read your new posts 😍 The little scissor is sooo right you do know ALOT of shizzle. As always your light shines brightly and will never never be dimmed. Can’t wait. Love you lots my warrior, your LL xoxo
Margaret Jennings
22/01/2019 at 11:36 am
Reading this gave me a sense of peace and calm and an understanding of how my thoughts need to be addressed quietly and not with panic or aggression.
Thanks once again for sharing…..
Mum x
Ruthie Rou
13/02/2019 at 8:35 pm
Amazing post my beautiful lifelong! Strong and independent for sure ….the champions will come…. eventually and even if we are 50 when the “champs” arrive we could still be in a relationship for a good 30 years which would be plenty 😜. I think we have perfect timing. Look at the fun we have had along the way and we haven’t needed Botox for the wrinks either 👌👌👌😚 xxx
Anonymous
05/01/2020 at 2:56 pm
That is a great tip particularly to those new to the blogosphere.
Brief but very precise information… Thanks for sharing this one.
A must read article!
Luxy
09/02/2020 at 4:20 pm
All kinds of wonderful Kiki! ❤
BITD
09/02/2020 at 4:38 pm
Thanks Luxy ❤️
Luxy
15/04/2020 at 9:13 am
I love this.
Love xxx
Samwar10
17/01/2021 at 7:48 pm
Love this article 🥰 so true and so needed. #workingonit
ruthie324a481534ff
31/03/2023 at 12:42 am
Welcome back my dearest lifelong. You are my golden nugget💛. Today if all we can do is “be” then let’s just “be”. 🌈 Love you lots, always MFWLL XOXO
BITD
31/03/2023 at 10:20 pm
Thank you my ll. It feels good to be back. You’re my 💛 too. Just being is more than enough. Always 💛😘
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